Widen the Circle

A couple of weeks ago, we formed a "Parenting Beyond Your Capacity" small group. This group consists of parents with children of all ages, and is based on the book by the same title. The authors, Reggie Joiner and Carey Nieuworf write: "When families work in tandem with the faith community to raise their children, they increase their parenting capacity exponentially." In short, this study looks at five key values that each family should consider.

Family Value #1: Widen the Circle

"Your children need someone else to believe in them. They need a place to belong, besides home. The goal for you is to pursue strategic relationships so another adult voice will be speaking into your son's or daughter's life, saying the same things you would say as a parent." -Reggie Joiner

As a parent, we need to recognize that we are called to be the most influential person in our child's life. But it doesn't take long to realize that we are not the only influence in our child's life. As our children get older, they will have additional people of influence in their lives [coaches, teachers, friends]. Add to this mix the "influence" of the internet, television and music.

Children will have questions. They will have decisions to make. They may come to you for advice. Or, they may not. As hurtful as that sounds, it's a part of growing up. Knowing that truth, we need to recognize the importance of having other adults that can speak into our children's lives.

Adults who believe what you believe.
Adults who love your children and want to guide them in the direction that you
would guide them.
Adults who value your family.

Chances are, your child will not form these relationships on their own. It is our job as a parent to" widen the circle". Here are some things to consider:

1] Get involved in a church that believes in community. Faith Promise strives on community. Adult small groups are a way to get connected with people like you. Obviously, this benefits you, but it can also benefit your family. When young children see mom or dad value being in a group, they are more likely to follow suit.

2] Help your child connect with a group. The Family Ministry at Faith Promise has groups for children and students of all ages. We believe that community begins at birth. That is why our preschool ministry strives to have consistent small group leaders in our classrooms each weekend. School age children have the opportunity to engage in a small group time as well. When your child attends the same service time each weekend, he is more likely to form a relationship with his leader. Our student ministry meets each Wednesday night. In addition to hearing God's word, your student will have a small group leader who will be another voice in your child's life.

3] Consider being a leader. We are in this together. We want to create a culture that cares for families. You can be a part of this by serving as a small group leader in preschool, elementary or student ministry. I guarantee you that the time you spend with our youth will be worth it!

Next week, we will examine Family Value #2: Imagine the End.

Happy Parenting!

Mia